You Are Not Alone

When the night feels endless and hope seems like a distant memory, it’s easy to wonder if anyone sees you or if your life even matters. I am here to tell you that I see you and that your life does matter! I understand how easy it is to feel unseen, unheard, and isolated, even in a world full of noise and constant connection. I understand what it is like to wrestle quietly with despair, wearing smiles by day and tears by night. I know because for a season or two, this was my story.

After my first marriage ended and then when I found myself in a relationship with someone who was struggling with depression and addiction, I began questioning my worth.  Thoughts crept in quietly but steadily, pushing me deeper into despair and isolation. I withdrew from people who loved me because I didn’t want to be a burden. I carried my pain silently, believing the enemy’s lies that I was forgotten, unseen, and unimportant. I began wondering if anyone would notice if I were gone and would they even care. Yet, even in my darkest moments, God was there. When no one else knew the depth of my despair, He did. In those late nights when I felt like I was drowning, He became the One I could talk to when I thought I had no one left. He pulled me out of the pit that the enemy was trying to drag me into and reminded me, again and again, that my life has value and purpose because I am His.

I understand how there are moments when life feels unbearably heavy. Seasons when the noise of the world fades into silence, and you feel like you’re standing on the edge of a cliff, staring into a dark and lonely abyss. I understand how isolation can creep in slowly, sometimes through grief, rejection, or a relentless sense of failure, and its weight can convince us that we are invisible, unwanted, or beyond help. In those moments, suicidal thoughts may begin to whisper lies that no one cares, that you don’t matter, that life is not worth living. But these are not truths. They are distortions of reality, and they do not define your worth.

I am here to tell you that the first step toward hope is to break the silence. Isolation gains strength in secrecy, and when you are left alone with your pain, it can feel overwhelming as despair has a way of growing louder and heavier. But we were never meant to carry our struggles on our own. We are created for connection, for relationships, and for life shared with others. When we reach out, whether to a friend, a pastor, a trusted mentor, a counselor, or even a suicide prevention hotline – we create an opening for light to enter the darkness. Sometimes just one phone call or one honest conversation can open the door – becoming the difference between despair and hope.

If you’re feeling hopeless, thinking about harming yourself, or withdrawing from those you love, it is not weakness to seek help. It is courage. God’s nearness isn’t just an abstract idea; it’s a living reality. Through Christ, God stepped into our suffering, our loneliness, and even our death so we would never be alone in ours. When you feel invisible, know this: Christ sees you. When you feel unloved, remember that His love for you is so great that He gave His life to rescue you.

Finding worth in Christ means anchoring your identity in something unshakable. The world often tells us that our value comes from performance, appearance, or the approval of others. But when those things are taken away, our sense of worth can easily crumble. Christ offers a different foundation – one that cannot be shaken. Your worth is not something you have to earn; it is a gift. It’s not temporary; it’s eternal. You are not an accident or an afterthought. You are a beloved child of God, intentionally created with purpose and love.

Sometimes, even when you know in your mind that you are loved and valued, the ache in your heart still lingers. I’ve felt that ache myself. When I was isolating, it was the quiet check-ins, the small gestures, and the people who simply showed up that reminded me I wasn’t alone. That’s why I believe so deeply in the importance of surrounding and supporting one another. If you’re struggling, let someone help you carry the weight. And if you notice someone beginning to withdraw, don’t be afraid to reach out. Send the text. Make the call. Offer a meal. Show up. Even the smallest act of kindness can become a lifeline to someone who feels unseen.

For those walking through despair, prayer can feel impossible, but you don’t have to have the right words. Romans 8:26 promises that “the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words.” Even your tears, your sighs, your silence can be prayers that reach the heart of God. And He answers – not always by removing every struggle immediately, but by sustaining you with His presence, surrounding you with His people, and reminding you of your eternal worth.

If you or someone you know is in immediate danger or thinking of suicide, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988 (U.S.) or reach out to local emergency services. There is help. There is hope. You are not alone.

In Christ, despair does not have the final word. Death does not have the final word. Isolation does not have the final word. Life does. Love does. Christ does. And He is inviting you—even now—to take one more breath, to take one more step, to reach for one more hand, and to believe, even if only by a thread, that you are worth saving. Because you are.

A Closing Prayer

Lord Jesus, thank You that even in the darkest nights of our souls, You are near. Thank You for never abandoning us, even when we feel invisible. For the one reading this who is hurting, I pray Your presence would be tangible right now. Remind them that they are seen, loved, and treasured by You. Surround them with people who will walk with them and speak life into their heart. Pull them from the pit and set their feet on the rock of Your truth. Help them believe, even when it feels impossible, that their life matters because You gave Yours for them. In Your name, Amen.